So I'm back again after a very long break. A few who know me know that I've been seeing a new FWB lately, a former Yuvutuer. I love fucking this woman's brains out! This morning she sent me a message from work: 

"I need to complain to you about you...I'm peaceful sitting in the break room with my co-workers enjoying my lunch when thoughts of you and this weekend creep into my mind. I get a chill and tingle over my whole body. I start to smile and a very happy sounding sigh escapes me. One of my co-workers noticed and gives me a weird look; and asks if I was ok. Everyone looks at me and I turn a thousand shades of red. So thank you very much! ;) :P"

Yeah, this is fun.

11. "Are you up for seconds?"
10. "How long does it take after you stick it in?"
9. "You'll know it's ready when it pops up."
8. "You'll get some, just wait your turn!" 
7. "Son, don't play with your meat at the table."
6. "It's a little dry, you still want to eat it?"
5. "Use a nice, smooth stroke when you whip it."
4. "You just spread 'er legs open and stuff it in."
3. "Do you think you'll be able to handle all these people at once?"
2. "I didn't expect everybody to come at once!" 
1. "You still have a little bit hanging on your chin." 
 

10. 'Reach in and grab the giblets.'
9. 'Whew...that's one terrific spread!'
8. 'I am in the mood for a little dark meat!'
7. 'Tying the legs together will keep the inside moist.'
6. 'Talk about a HUGE breast!'
5. 'And he convinces his way into the end zone!'
4. 'She's 5000 pounds fully inflated and it takes 15 men to hold her down.'
3. 'It's cool whip time!'
2. 'If I don't unbutton my pants, I am going to burst!'
1. 'It must be broken 'cause when I push on the tip, nothing squirts out.'

HAPPY THANKSGIVING EVERYBODY! 

Treat every situation like a dog. If you can't eat it or hump it, then piss on it and walk away.

Yesterday I wrote an article on how new visitors to the Yuvutu chatrooms can more easily integrate themselves into the community. Today I'm going to write about how we, the more established members of the community, might be able to help improve the Yuvutu experience through our own participation and interaction. This might also be useful to some of our new moderators that have been brought on board recently. Again, keep in mind that I myself am not an admin/mod/owner/whatever, just more of a "concerned citizen".  :-)

You'll notice that I frequently refer to Yuvutu as a community, because this is more than just a website where we all hang out and perv. We meet people, we become friends, sometimes we get to meet in person, but frequently we often find at least one or two people that we have formed good relationships with and make a conscious effort to come here and communicate. It's a great experience, but to continue to to ensure that it is great, it might be helpful to keep in mind how we communicate with others often dictates that.

I've noticed a trend in some of the more regular users that they are becoming less tollerant of those that we label "trolls" - individuals who constantly beg for attention, bark orders, demand action from those on cam, or otherwise disregard the rules. I've also, unfortunately, noticed that this is starting to overflow onto new users who are not exactly on the same page as the rest of us when it comes to chatroom etiquette and community standards. As a result if a new user comes on board and says something that we don't consider to be courteous or respectful, there has been a call to block the user so that we don't have to read their messages, and they can't watch our cams or listen to our audio.

However, let me offer you this perspective from the end of new visitor here. Say somebody new shows up, they're perving on somebody's cam in the room, and they say "Hey, can I see your pussy?". Said person on cam gets offended, along with a few others, and everybody is suddenly saying "BLOCK!", and many in the room block this person. They don't offer to ask the new person to curb their behavior, in fact, they don't want anything to do with the new person at all. Suddenly, the new person can see that he or she is no longer seeing their conversations, and when they click on somebody's webcam or audio, they're notified that they've been blocked. They ask in the forum why they've been blocked, but nobody can see their text either. Or if somebody does see it, they tell the new person that they've been blocked and it is no use begging to be unblocked. Worse yet, some users decide that it is appropriate behavior to call this new person names or to harass them in an attempt to chase them off.
 
Now, put yourself into that new person's shoes. They're not aware of the community standards, most of which are unwritten and merely expected to be known. Nobody has tried to explain to them what they are, and most of the other people here have either cut off communications with the new person, or has abused them. How would you feel if you were treated in this fashion? Unfortunately, for many new visitors, they're going to end up taking one of three stances: 1) There are some people here who are unfriendly, and therefore it is okay to be hostile back towards them; 2) Everybody here is a jerk so it is okay to treat everybody else like a jerk; 3) This place stinks and there's somewhere else to go, and the new person leaves, never to return.

Why should we all care about this? We should care because our behavior towards other people reflects on the community as a whole, and if the impression is that this is a bad place to visit, then Yuvutu will be treated as a bad place by others. There's an old saying in the marketing world that if somebody has a good experience somewhere, they will tell three other people about it, but if they have a bad experience somewhere, they'll tell nine other people about it. If Yuvutu earns a negative reputation on the Internet, a place where rumors and lies can be spread instantly around the globe, then Yuvutu will end up becoming a much smaller, more unfriendly place and eventually dry up and go away.

So here is how you can help improve the Yuvutu community:
 
1) If you see somebody behaving badly, POLITELY correct them. You can send them a message privately or you can post it in the room, let them know that their behavior is discourteous and discouraged. If you think it is helpful, you can even point them back to my blog post aimed at helping new visitors (apparently some people are already do this, thank you for your confidence in my thoughts!). We do not have to automatically jump on their case or block them. Give them the benefit of the doubt first that they just don't know.

And to that extent, before you decide to correct them, reflect on whether or not their behavior is detrimental to the chatroom. For example, if somebody is on cam showing and a lot of people are giving requests, but the person on cam is not complaining, or is even encouraging it, are they actually hurting anybody? Consider the situation first.

2) Take some time to get to know the new users.  It's very easy to get roped into our close-knit circle of friends and only talk with them. Sometimes, however, this can give off an impression that there is nothing here but unapproachable and closed-off cliques. Presenting yourself as open and approachable can often take the edge off a new visitor and encourage them to participate in a positive manner.

3) If they continue to engage in bad behavior, report it to a moderator. You do not have to take it upon yourself to try to punish users engaging in bad behavior. We now have moderators here who can take action when they see it. I don't know if a list of moderators is going to be published, but you can certainly ask around and find out who they are and when they are online. Let the moderators take the heat. The moderators are able to come into busy rooms, and if worse comes to worse, kick those users out of the rooms on a temporary basis. 

If there isn't a moderator around, then use the "Feedback" link at the top of the website to report the offending behavior. If you can, provide a screenshot of what is going on so that the administrators can clearly see what is happening and take action. They'll e-mail you back if they have any further questions.

Hopefully this is helpful to all who read it, and maybe if we can work together, we can turn around some of the negative things that have been happening. Most of all, I just want to see Yuvutu continue as a thriving and friendly community where we can perv and be perved. ;-) 

FOR THE NEW VISITOR TO YUVUTU:
Thank you for joining us in the chatrooms! As one of the many users who visit the chatrooms daily, let me personally welcome you! As you are getting started here, I would like to offer some suggestions to help make your visits here pleasant. These are not official rules, and I am not the owner, the admin, or any sort of boss or moderator. I am just offering suggestions that I have learned, and which may help you as well.

1)  Take time to talk with users and get to know people.  While it is very easy to jump in on the action with audio and video webcams, please remember that everybody on cam is a person, and they do enjoy the conversation here. Most people here are very friendly and it is very easy to make a new friend with a little conversation and a kind word! Meeting people and making friends are what the chatrooms are about, and you will very quickly come to enjoy it!

2) Please do not give orders or commands. While a lot of the people who play on webcams like the attention that you will give them, many of them do not like to be told what to do. Please refrain from commands like "Show me your tits" or "Show me your pussy", unless you know that individual welcomes such comments. If you see others in the chatroom saying to you "Stop directing" or "Please don't give orders", then please respect this.

3) Please do not beg others to watch you. You do not have to bother other people to give you attention. If you have a webcam and you turn it on, other people WILL watch you. And if you followed steps 1 and 2 above, then you will make friends who will automatically watch you.

4) Please do not send unsolicited IMs, and do not ask others to go to IM.  While Yuvutu does have an IM feature, it does cause a lot of problems for other people, especially if they are using their webcam. For their courtesy, please do not send them an IM unless they ask you to. Also, please do not ask other people to chat with you in MSN, Yahoo or other IM programs. People come here because they like to chat here and webcam here for other people. It is rude to ask them to go into a private chat just with you.

5) Please respect chatroom rules. The rules of the chatroom are very simple, the main rules are do not spam the room with links to other websites and do not harass other people. Also, in many of the chatrooms there are language rules. If a room says "English" in the name, then you must communicate in English. There are also rooms dedicated to Espanol, Francais, Deutsche and Italiano. There is also the rooms that say "Lobby", and in the Lobby rooms you can communicate in any language you want, there is no restriction. We just ask that you please respect the language rooms so that everybody in them can communicate freely and uninhibited.

6) If you need help, please ask for it! If you do not know how the chatroom works, if you are having problems, or you have other questions, please feel free to ask somebody for help! A lot of users are more than willing to help you, if you are willing to ask and are patient.

Hopefully these suggestions will help you with your Yuvutu experience, and I hope that you enjoy the site and the services that Yuvutu offers! Feel free to say hello to me if you see me in the chatroom, I look forward to meeting you!